2016 Mom Talk

Transitioning to Kindergarten Essentials

September 15, 2016

Blog_EssentialsWithEmily_KindergartenHeaderTransitioning to Kindergarten Essentials

So the day has come and gone, and your little one is officially in school. Or as my kids call it, “Big Kid School”. As kids are all unique, each one will adjust and assimilate at a different pace and in their own way, but here are a few things I think each family can do to continue to smooth over the transition in the month to come.

Normalize their entry to school

You can do this by bringing it up in casual conversation, always keeping things light. Talk about other kids they know who go to school, or what school they attend. Keep school on your lips, but in a light way. Even remember back to when you were first in school and tell your child what you loved the most. Buy a book or two that involves the main character going to school, if you don’t yet own any. Lastly, walk by their school as often as possible so they are familiar with the building and going there from your home. It will make the first day much less intimidating.

Play School!

Kids comprehend their surroundings internally and often express their thoughts through play. Watch and see what tones and storylines they come up with when they are playing school. Our daughter helped us understand that she worried the teacher would be mean, by acting that out innocently as she played. She never mentioned this verbally, but it became clear that she was afraid that she wouldn’t like her teacher. After watching for a few minutes we were able to interject and say, “Oh but wait, most teachers are the nicest people you’ll ever meet – especially kindergarten teachers! So the teacher in your game is very unusual.”

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Get them involved in preparations

It’s easier to buy most of your things online once the kids are in bed, am I right? And while I still mostly go this route, when we were helping our oldest wrap her head around the upcoming school year, we made sure to involve her in all the shopping. I brought her to the store with me for supplies; let her pick out her own backpack, and a few extra staples for the fall season. Continue brainstorming ideas for lunches and snacks, and let your child be involved in meal prep.

School has begun

The transition isn’t over once they actually start school – it’s just beginning. Kindergarten teachers understand the whole month of September to be a transition for the child and they will often be extremely laid back with the children the first month. October is often the month where teachers tighten up on rules and expectations, as the kids have had time to adjust to the new environment. This means for the whole month of September, your child should be gradually easing in to the new way of life at school. You can help them by asking pointed questions at the end of the day and then again a few hours later. Right after school you’ll get passion and a fresh memory, but they’re also usually really tired and hungry. Once they’re in the their comfort zone at home, they may be more reflective and less emotional. Avoid general questions like “how was your day”, which will almost never yield more than a simple “fine” in response.  Instead, try, “did anything happen today that scared you?” or “what happened today to make you laugh?”

Starting school is a giant leap for our little ones, and it’s bound to be met with the whole gamut of emotions. It’s your job as their parents to be even tempered, positive, and light hearted about the transition, but never forget empathy, too. It is scary and hard being in a new place with a room full of strangers, so don’t be so positive that your child feels alone in those emotions. Also, as hard as it can be, try to keep it together on their first day of school! For all of us criers out there (and I may be chief crier!), this is a challenge. But save the tears for once you’re home or at work, and instead let them see your happy encouraging face as you send them off.

Emily is a Montreal-based writer and blogger, but most importantly, a mom of three littles (age five and under). She geeks out over cloth diapers, lattes, and will do just about anything to travel. You can find her on Instagram @emmorrice where she profusely overgrams pictures of her meals, kids and city. 

Emily Morrice

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